awww hun im sorry your depressed. i personally dont think this guy is any good for you. you have so much to offer and he just does not see that. I think its time to permenantly leave him and find someone who WILL treat you the way you should be treated. Like the angel that you are!!!! hugs hun

yes your right 9 years is a long time invested hun, but better that it stops now then it being 10 years, then 11 years, then 20..........you need to get out there and find new luv! damn wish i was there i would soooo take you out for coffee and treat you like the angel you are! hugs!

I'm telling ya', move down here. We'll love you and be your friends.

I am sorry he's being a jerk, and Angela came along. Karma's a funny thing. Sometimes it puts you through huge trials because a bigger payoff is coming around the corner. And sometimes it just tests you for no apparent reason. Hang on to the fact that you are a good person. Sometimes people lose sight of good things (and people) when they are not secure with themselves and where they are in life. He can't see that what he is doing to you is the same thing that was done to him, and how much he hated it. He may or may not come back around to you. But if he does, you have to decide how worth it it is to you to accept him back and risk the eventual hurt again, or to cut him loose and stand firm. Tough call. I've had this happen more times than I can remember, and I've lost a lot of friends over this, and it really hurt at the time when I refused to deal with them again and be the driving force in the relationship (it needs to be two-way after all), but now I don't miss them, have moved on, and have new friends who are as dedicated to me as I am to them.

That being said, I've also seriously lowered my expectations from my friends. I used to expect lots from my friends and they were always going to end up, eventually, coming up short. I finally faced it that I was just asking too much from them and am happier now for it. I'm not saying that this is the case for you, I'm just...pontificating.

Hang in there and do the things that will make you the happiest in the long-run, even if it tears you heart out right now, in the short-run.

Take care. Hugs and loves. And remember you are a fabulous person.

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