so i need to tell you guys about something's that has been going on for a while. so i've been dating this guy for the past couple of months. we've been friends for a long time and the feelings have always been there between us, so after my ex and i broke up we decided to give it a shot.
he's great (not to sound too girly). he makes me happy and relaxed, which is a big thing. things have been going pretty well, but he's gotten wrapped up in timelines i think. he ws engaged and they broke up in the summer, so a few times he has freaked out a bit about us and having a serious relationship. i'm not pushing for anything major, i just know he makes me happy and i want to continue that.
this week he told me that he's not sure he is ready to date me, pretty much. he says he has feelings for me and that he loves spending time with me, but he doesn't know if he can make any sort of commitment (even just dating). he's in NY with his family this weekend, and he wants to see me on NYE and he said he will figure it out after that. the mixed signals he's giving me are driving me nuts - he says that and then in the same conversation he says that he wants to see me on NYE and can't wait to have his arms around me.
i'm obviously not too stoked about this. i'm afraid that if we just go back to being friends until he's ready, i'll be stuck waiting for something that may not happen. but if i cut and run now, i may ruin something that could be great down the line.
any advice?
he's great (not to sound too girly). he makes me happy and relaxed, which is a big thing. things have been going pretty well, but he's gotten wrapped up in timelines i think. he ws engaged and they broke up in the summer, so a few times he has freaked out a bit about us and having a serious relationship. i'm not pushing for anything major, i just know he makes me happy and i want to continue that.
this week he told me that he's not sure he is ready to date me, pretty much. he says he has feelings for me and that he loves spending time with me, but he doesn't know if he can make any sort of commitment (even just dating). he's in NY with his family this weekend, and he wants to see me on NYE and he said he will figure it out after that. the mixed signals he's giving me are driving me nuts - he says that and then in the same conversation he says that he wants to see me on NYE and can't wait to have his arms around me.
i'm obviously not too stoked about this. i'm afraid that if we just go back to being friends until he's ready, i'll be stuck waiting for something that may not happen. but if i cut and run now, i may ruin something that could be great down the line.
any advice?
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so i'll say this, Happy New Year
im not much for advice but i have been in that situation before and let just say she was my best friend before and now i cant even talk with her and it sucks and i miss it for sure. so matter what you decide be very careful about it because thats how friends get lost