Just looked back through my blog and realised I haven't mentioned Katie by name in 3 months. I don't know what that means.
Spent 2 weeks in Michigan with her, though, meeting her family, which was good. Her family are crazy and remind me of my own. I think I could quite happily move to the Mid West. Went back to work today feeling relaxed and well-rested, which is a good thing, too.
I learned quite a lot about people and life while I was away, although the biggest of these things I maybe only figured out on the plane home. I've known for a long time that relationships are based on giving and receiving, but I realised on the way home that I mostly only "give" on topics and situations where I'm mostly neutral to start with. I'm starting to see that that's not really giving at all because it doesn't cost me anything; that when you give way on topics that you actually have a strong opinion on, you're really actively giving your partner something.
I'm encouraged when I find myself figuring out cool things like that in a relationship, but I wonder whether it's a good sign that I've got to a point where I feel I have to give way on stuff I care about... I think I'm going to ride it out for as long as I feel like it might be doing me some good, though. The worst that could happen is I realise I've been making a mistake, I suppose.
Spent 2 weeks in Michigan with her, though, meeting her family, which was good. Her family are crazy and remind me of my own. I think I could quite happily move to the Mid West. Went back to work today feeling relaxed and well-rested, which is a good thing, too.
I learned quite a lot about people and life while I was away, although the biggest of these things I maybe only figured out on the plane home. I've known for a long time that relationships are based on giving and receiving, but I realised on the way home that I mostly only "give" on topics and situations where I'm mostly neutral to start with. I'm starting to see that that's not really giving at all because it doesn't cost me anything; that when you give way on topics that you actually have a strong opinion on, you're really actively giving your partner something.
I'm encouraged when I find myself figuring out cool things like that in a relationship, but I wonder whether it's a good sign that I've got to a point where I feel I have to give way on stuff I care about... I think I'm going to ride it out for as long as I feel like it might be doing me some good, though. The worst that could happen is I realise I've been making a mistake, I suppose.
That is always good!