Dude, the EXACT same thing happened to my ex's bff. You have every right to feel as though she deserves the situation she put herself in. And I'll tell you what I told her: FUCK THEM! She'll figure it out, she's a big girl. I know she's still your friend and you still care about her, but if you help her now you're going to subject yourself to more drama and stress than you could possibly handle. Plus you'll only enable her to hurt you again...and she will. I know this is harsh...but I hope it helps.
St. Patty's Day was a lot of fun, although I didn't wear as much green as you did!
As far as your question goes......
Am I wrong to feel this way ?
- No, she only needs you cause she got knocked-up
Is this wrong to deny her support?
- No, but if you want to patch things up then an effort will have to be made.
What would you guys do in this situation ?
- Well if someone betrayed my friendship (and it has happened to me), it would be hard to trust that person again, and be thier friend again. If the need my help, I'd help them, but I sure as hell wouldn't go out of my way to do so, especially if that person wouldn't do the same for me.
- Do what feels right. If you want the friends back as a important person in your life, then extend a hand to help. If you kow this friendship could never work, you can help, just don't bend over backwards. Who knows this could make the two of you close again.
I think that's about all the advice I have for the day....hope my 2 cents helps!
You are so so cute! I dont think I actually "met" you at the big party, but I do think I mightve grabbed at your fun bags during the group shot. Haha typical.
Hope we get to actually exchange words next time you're around.
Yeah im in the process of doing all that b.s. It's so time consuming but I think it will be worth it in the long run, that way nobody will have to deal with him again
hey hey luvv the st.pattys day hair! ur ex friend sorta person sounds lammmmeeee
what does she expect u to do? help raise the kid?
i would wish her the best of luck and advise her to vent how she feels to kris not you
after all she did choose him over you right, so obviously he is more important as an essential part in her life
no hard feelings, just not your problem
worry about you. She didn't worry about you when she started dating him, she didn't worry about you when she took the relationship to the next step.
In my opinion, she isn't worried about you at all, she's worried about her, and she wants you to be worried about her to. I agree with whoever said she should be talking to Kris about this.
i don't know what part of the Ohigho you're in now. But it sucks up here on the lakeshore, which you probably know from living in Mentor, the wonderful snowbelt. I have left Parma and it's snowing/raining/shitty/sno-rain-shitting all at once, drive two hours south and its 60 degrees and sunny.
The summer of the year i bought my motorcycle, it rained three solid weeks after i bought it. As much as it's rained up here the last few summers, the federal government should buy the state of Ohio and turn it into a national car wash.
I agree with the first few opinions.. You said from the start how you felt, and that you didn't want any part of the situation. You removed yourself from it, and you guys stopped talking. The only reason she "came back" was because she "needed you" -- but not as a friend, as a ride.. and because she fucked up. Very typical, very shitty -- and while you are probably sweet enough to let yourself be used in this way, and let your loyalty to the original friendship override your hurt in the situation .. especially since he's not a part of it anymore .. I say, get out! She DOES have it coming .. you're right. She chose this road [and the DUIs are HER FAULT, so that's not a helpless situation .. she shouldn't have been drinking and driving; that's fucking stupid].
Cut loose! You don't need the stress, or to re-open the hurt!
Well since you asked, My St. Patty's went as follows, Class from 1130-1230, class decides to say fuck it and we walk the few blocks from campus to LoDo. $3 car bombs, and $2 Jamesons at 1230. Then back to campus to take in the scenery. And by scenery everyone that is now on our level. Some classmates bounce. My friend and I went back downtown and went to an Irish Pub and continued drinking Guinness. Rode the train back to the 'burbs then went to the local Irish pub and got really really intoxicated. I was out til 4am. Green all around!
Mine was equally as long. I was in Savannah for the 2nd biggest st patty's celebration in the states. it was great! looks like you had a good time too.