Chasing Amy was a work of fiction.

Yikes, by all means do NOT go with the "you're not lesbian you just haven't met the right man yet".

It's natural to feel confused when you feel feeling for someone of the sex for the first time.
Maybe what you should emphasis if you're going to be having discussions along these lines with her is that :
instead of needing a label or putting herself into a box that she should just be open to loving whomever regardless of sexual orientation or gender identification.

As a women myself who like women and men this has worked well for me. Bisexual has never fit. Straight has never fit and even when I was more interested in women than men "lesbian" never fit.

Nowadays I just prefer queer. It's semi vague but gets across the point that i'm defiantly not straight. And if people want to know more then they can ask.

Also, is it possible that her guilt isn't so much about being with men - but perhaps shes feeling guilty about being with anyone because she has feeling for another person (who happens to be female).

Also you said :

That can be true. But it also doesn't make her straight.

Just tread lightly.

I don't think you should pursue her. I think you need to decide if she means enough to you to accept that she doesn't know what she wants yet.

Like the girl I have a crush on...I've made it perfectly clear that I would like something to happen between us, but at the same time I adore spending time with her and that is far more important to me than having a sexual relationship with her. I've left the door open but I've made my peace with the fact that my fantasy may never be fufuilled.

I think pursuit will end up driving her away or making her feel like you really aren't respecting who she is. But if you are willing to accept her friendship with out having any expectation of swaying it into something else then she will trust you...and from there...who knows????

are you going to be up north for the holiday?

trying to figure out if I could get some fudge to you. duh, you asked me to share!!!

Join the West Coast Camping Trip group! Camping at the end of April! <333

Haha Pics were taken, but they are for him only.... I'm really trying to make him feel as though he has things that I don't just hand out to everyone else; something special for him. I'm not even sure if I'll ever post nudes on here again bc he's still very insecure about how I feel about him. Also, this is my last month on here for a long time again.

I know! Lol It was more of a side note...didn't know if you had read anything that had happened last month between he and I.