Just what you said. If you just, ah...rely on the mouth (hey...you asked! ) and basically demand it, then there it is. Sometimes we like to have it initiated towards us, as opposed to asking. Try it out
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No fucking shit! We had to up the anty to Barbies and nerds. she's finally there, but what a chore! Our first just waited until he was four, and then decided to do it. With this one, we thought, "girl, younger, easier.." wrong, WRONG! Dora...good thinking
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Pat would be a great surrogate. He has good taste in hats...and that says something about the cut of his jib