Well congrats on finding a new place and selling the house!
About the other stuff.. well, relationships are just hard. Maybe this is your time to break out and be less shy.
Or, if you haven't already, approach your wife more on the topic of intimacy. If you were monogamous, that'd be your only option really... besides just putting up with it and being miserable. Open relationship or not it's still a give and take and being open and understanding of other peoples needs and being considerate.
Of course you know all this and doing is easier said than done. Good luck, I hope things get better soon.
I am sad to hear that you're getting this kind of response about being non-monogamous. It's a frustrating bias to encounter.
Also agree with Mavenist that perhaps having a very frank discussion about your needs with your wife sounds like the most positive thing. As she is your primary partner it seems that perhaps there s something that she can do be part of this process. I would worry about bringing anyone else in right now.
Sorry you can't make it down to SF today it appears my couchsurfers aren't going to be all that available anyway.
Yeah, weight loss can be tough. I used to be very athletic and healthy. When I was just a little over weight i'd lose and gain easily... then there was the point of no return and now weightloss has really be a struggle. In February I was 70lbs over my ideal weight. I've lost 20 and still have 50 more to go. Its a long hard road for me. I'm really struggling with exercise. I have no motivation to do it alone but I also have no one to do it with. The few people I've tried exercising with haven't really been able to stay committed.
Thats great that you have a gym at the apartment complex. It totally makes it easier and there are less excuses. It doesn't take as long since you don't have to drive and park etc.
That sucks man I'm sorry. Things will pick up. As for the girl who talked to you she probably just didn't get it. I see cuddling in your future. Come on out when SGSAC goes out next and you'll have some drunken support to find yourself a cuddler
First time I ever that I've actually had a primary during Pride. Usually I am the unicorn or am working so much that I just fall over from exhaustion without having a chance to really connect with anyone. It was wonderful to have her there with me, to be able to smile and smooch while doing safety as the dykes on bikes flew past us and hooted and hollered.
About the other stuff.. well, relationships are just hard. Maybe this is your time to break out and be less shy.
Or, if you haven't already, approach your wife more on the topic of intimacy. If you were monogamous, that'd be your only option really... besides just putting up with it and being miserable. Open relationship or not it's still a give and take and being open and understanding of other peoples needs and being considerate.
Of course you know all this and doing is easier said than done. Good luck, I hope things get better soon.