I feel you on this. I see these women power lifting and being super fit or just ultra intelligent and I immediately assume worst case scenario results so I skip introductions. I can't validate my idea as successful, but it's actually helped me to go in with immediate thoughts that a girl has zero interest. I feel less nervous and can talk up a storm when I think it will lead to a one and done conversation. Made some great friends that way. Honestly, I use that same thought here because I would approach exactly zero SGs/hopefuls normally. Sure, I have legit interest in certain ones that shall remain nameless and a lot of others I could friendly flirt with all day. I'm also an idiot and can't pick up on signals so remaining friendly when someone might actually be interested has been fruitless. Just put yourself out there. Go out, smile, talk, and be you. You don't need steel confidence (which can also be intimidating), but enough to say that you dig where its going and can say it out loud. ❤

I too understand what you are up against. putting yourself "out there" can be scary. I found that when I was just out to enjoy myself and was myself I was able to meet some awesome people. you are and awesome and you do deserve love

My last date was about 3 years ago and it was pretty much a mindfuck and I haven't actively looked for anyone to date since, everything about the night was great, we laughed, we danced, even organised our next few outings, a week later she was a ghost. I hope you find someone, you are correct in saying you deserve happiness 💜

Wow these are the same reasons I simply got off the dating apps I just depressed myself more about being single and not being what anyone wants. I'm just sort of drifting at the moment. No real desire to find anyone simply bc I don't value myself and don't think I'm worth it to anybody. Like why would anyone want to get involved with all this. So I just decided not to hassle anyone with my presence and just hang out with family and talk to my gaming friends. Maybe one day I'll find that unicorn that one amazing person who somehow still hasnt been snatched up by someone .

Wow these are the same reasons I simply got off the dating apps I just depressed myself more about being single and not being what anyone wants. I'm just sort of drifting at the moment. No real desire to find anyone simply bc I don't value myself and don't think I'm worth it to anybody. Like why would anyone want to get involved with all this. So I just decided not to hassle anyone with my presence and just hang out with family and talk to my gaming friends. Maybe one day I'll find that unicorn that one amazing person who somehow still hasnt been snatched up by someone .

Navigating the minefields of getting to know someone new is something that I've realised that I just don't have the energy for any more. I can barely summon the motivation to get out of bed and go to work and not flip tables when presented with weapons grade ignorance in the office. I certainly don't have any left to try and compete with all the young bucks when I have stacked the deck against myself as far as I have.

You’re damn right. I actually really like the modern day dating apps for this exact reason. I consider myself to be kind, compassionate, a good conversationalist with a lot of love to give. But I also am very overweight and not very attractive. Even though I didn’t get swiped on very often I loved when I did because I KNEW they were only looking at what I was least comfy with, and were okay with it. That’s a little off topic maybe but all in all I feel you. Gotta just shoot the shot. The problem is internalizing stuff not working out or not being right for someone as “rejection” when it really isn’t

I hated dating when I was ... I always was the “short” dude lol

Actually I had a pretty decent dating life I mean 1 or 2 bad ones of course but I was actually able to meet the woman I wanna spend my life with.@diamant you seem like a beautiful woman to me.no worries from the looks of things and reading your page.that right one will come along and dating will become easier.its pleasing one person for  life that is not easy.but to make a long story short you must always believe in yourself be yourself and know your worth and what you want

exactly what @assholeluv34  said... someone is out there for you and will love you for you!!  be yourself and don't settle!!

honestly just be yourself...so fine