okay, for those of you who know, i've been trying to go to this club for months. and last night i finally got to, and it really sucked. the people who worked there were all really cool. the door guy (probably owner) was cool. the bartender was cool. the dj was really cool, since he came over and asked us if we wanted him to play anything in particular since we looked bored.
but the people there sucked. it's an s&m club, but friday is supposed to be the dance night. and no one was dancing. i hate being the only one at a club dancing. it's one thing if it looks like other people there will dance, but no one looked like they would have gotten up. we got there early, about 10. but when we left at 11:45 (yes, we left before 12) no one new had gotten there. no one,
we sat there for a while just talking and my love and our friend drinking. and watching this really weird japanese rope bondage porn with this guy in it who would NOT take off his sunglasses. i was really bothered by this for some reason.
but eventually this guy came up and asked if he could sit down. he had the worst british accent in the world. it was so obvious he was faking it. it was ridiculous. my love said yes, he minded. and the "english" guy looked a little put off. then this guy in a cat (white tiger) suit came up and sat right down. now we didn't mind this because he did it more in a way of "i'm a regular and don't know you guys and just wanted to say hi". my love was very nice to him. asked him about where he got the costume and everything. turns out he made his outfit himself, pretty cool.
pretty much the only thing i didn't like was that he grabbed my collar, which to me is like he tried to shove his hand up my skirt. he also wanted to know if my love would share, which we don't! (we also said our friend was with us so she wouldn't get bothered by guys). but then he left after a couple of minutes.
so time passes and nothing gets going. it was supposed to be a tiki hell party. no party going on there. there was also a flogging demonstration with a guy who looked like a hardcore d&d guy at a roleplaying thing. no one was even really focused on it. they watched it pretty much like they were watching the porn.
but then my love went to the bathroom, leaving me and our friend all alone, and the "english" guy came back. he sat right down and introduced himself and asked who i was. i said "owned". he said that was an ugly name. and i asked if he knew anything about etiquette. he responded that he had been in the lifestyle for longer than i've been alive. okay, i'm 22 and this would have to make this guy around 40. and he didn't look much older than me, if he was older at all.
so now i'm going to go off on a little tangent about ds etiquette. i've never actually been to a play party, not that that's what it was last night. but i still know how things are supposed to go. you do not approach someone who's a submissive without making sure that's okay with their dominant. and i was wearing my collar and bondage bracelets. so i think that should have been pretty fucking obvious. you also don't grab their collar or anything like that. just because i'm submissive does not mean i'm fucking here to serve you!
it really makes me mad the more i think about it. i was pretty polite at the time, but you just don't do that. there are rules there for a fucking reason!
okay, so anyway. i asked the "english" guy what was up with his accent (since it was so obviously fake) and he said he was from england. which no one says. they all say they're from britian or british when asked. not fucking england. god, that accent was so horrible. you really should have heard it. he was just really rude.
i went to go get our bottle so we could go when my love came back from the bathroom. (it's a bring your own bottle club) and that guy still wouldn't leave. i look back from the bar and my love's leaning over the table, right in the guy's face. about got in a fight.
he started out nice and polite, but that guy just wouldn't leave. the "english" guy was saying he was being rude because he wouldn't let him sit at our table (like there weren't 50 other tables he could go sit at) i mean, yeah, usually people say you can join when you ask, but you know they don't really want to. my love was just being honest. he was nice about it.
he also was trying to say my love was insecure because he wouldn't share. i'm sorry we aren't swingers and even if we were we WOULDN'T be interested.
okay, so this has gone on long enough and i really thank everyone who got through it all. you get a gold star! yay! so the club sucked. and i feel really bad because it could have been a cool place and the people who worked there were so cool and so very very nice. the door guy/owner said he'd give us cheaper admission to tonight's play party but we're not going. i feel bad because he was so nice, but i just don't want to deal with people who don't know how to treat people. i'd feel really uncomfortable playing there or even being there with people like that.
anyway, thanks for listening to me bitch. gold star!
but the people there sucked. it's an s&m club, but friday is supposed to be the dance night. and no one was dancing. i hate being the only one at a club dancing. it's one thing if it looks like other people there will dance, but no one looked like they would have gotten up. we got there early, about 10. but when we left at 11:45 (yes, we left before 12) no one new had gotten there. no one,
we sat there for a while just talking and my love and our friend drinking. and watching this really weird japanese rope bondage porn with this guy in it who would NOT take off his sunglasses. i was really bothered by this for some reason.
but eventually this guy came up and asked if he could sit down. he had the worst british accent in the world. it was so obvious he was faking it. it was ridiculous. my love said yes, he minded. and the "english" guy looked a little put off. then this guy in a cat (white tiger) suit came up and sat right down. now we didn't mind this because he did it more in a way of "i'm a regular and don't know you guys and just wanted to say hi". my love was very nice to him. asked him about where he got the costume and everything. turns out he made his outfit himself, pretty cool.
pretty much the only thing i didn't like was that he grabbed my collar, which to me is like he tried to shove his hand up my skirt. he also wanted to know if my love would share, which we don't! (we also said our friend was with us so she wouldn't get bothered by guys). but then he left after a couple of minutes.
so time passes and nothing gets going. it was supposed to be a tiki hell party. no party going on there. there was also a flogging demonstration with a guy who looked like a hardcore d&d guy at a roleplaying thing. no one was even really focused on it. they watched it pretty much like they were watching the porn.
but then my love went to the bathroom, leaving me and our friend all alone, and the "english" guy came back. he sat right down and introduced himself and asked who i was. i said "owned". he said that was an ugly name. and i asked if he knew anything about etiquette. he responded that he had been in the lifestyle for longer than i've been alive. okay, i'm 22 and this would have to make this guy around 40. and he didn't look much older than me, if he was older at all.
so now i'm going to go off on a little tangent about ds etiquette. i've never actually been to a play party, not that that's what it was last night. but i still know how things are supposed to go. you do not approach someone who's a submissive without making sure that's okay with their dominant. and i was wearing my collar and bondage bracelets. so i think that should have been pretty fucking obvious. you also don't grab their collar or anything like that. just because i'm submissive does not mean i'm fucking here to serve you!
it really makes me mad the more i think about it. i was pretty polite at the time, but you just don't do that. there are rules there for a fucking reason!
okay, so anyway. i asked the "english" guy what was up with his accent (since it was so obviously fake) and he said he was from england. which no one says. they all say they're from britian or british when asked. not fucking england. god, that accent was so horrible. you really should have heard it. he was just really rude.
i went to go get our bottle so we could go when my love came back from the bathroom. (it's a bring your own bottle club) and that guy still wouldn't leave. i look back from the bar and my love's leaning over the table, right in the guy's face. about got in a fight.
he started out nice and polite, but that guy just wouldn't leave. the "english" guy was saying he was being rude because he wouldn't let him sit at our table (like there weren't 50 other tables he could go sit at) i mean, yeah, usually people say you can join when you ask, but you know they don't really want to. my love was just being honest. he was nice about it.
he also was trying to say my love was insecure because he wouldn't share. i'm sorry we aren't swingers and even if we were we WOULDN'T be interested.
okay, so this has gone on long enough and i really thank everyone who got through it all. you get a gold star! yay! so the club sucked. and i feel really bad because it could have been a cool place and the people who worked there were so cool and so very very nice. the door guy/owner said he'd give us cheaper admission to tonight's play party but we're not going. i feel bad because he was so nice, but i just don't want to deal with people who don't know how to treat people. i'd feel really uncomfortable playing there or even being there with people like that.
anyway, thanks for listening to me bitch. gold star!
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Don't you hate it when you want to dance and no-one is.. it is always so hard to be the first then hope that other people follow..