If I knew that beforehand, I wouldn't have the right to have a problem, and if girlfriend made the choice while we're together, then I'd try to be supportive.
Although, in all truth, I probably would feel uncomfortable with some of the creepy folk at first, before we turned it into a joke.
Sadly, I do see nude modeling and teaching might not go well together, but it depends a lot on what level you're teaching.
It depends on what his intentions are. Does he have you in his best interest and is genuinely concerned that it could affect your future, or is he jealous and wants you all to himself? Personally I think this decision should be soley yours. If you love being here, we love having you!
Also, I think SG is overall an amazing site. It's tasteful. I'm really against people getting let go from jobs just because they've posed nude. I mean REALLY. Aren't there more important things to worry about?! I wonder how the legalities of all that works.
It's your life Cristabelle.
I personally wouldn't mind one bit. In fact, I'd love it!
Now work is another place. Hmm...it's not like you go around with a huge "I'm a SG" sign on your back!
Your personal life should have no bearing in your job performance though.
This is a community, hope you stay sweetie.
If you were going to get in trouble for having nudie pictures on the internet, I don't think it would make a significant difference when the pictures were taken.
That's not a value judgment--just the way I see things go down.
"Naked on the internet" isn't a protected class, so you aren't specifically protected from being fired over it. That said, it isn't really related to your qualifications or ability to do the job, so it could be difficult to fire you for just that.
Depending on what level you're teaching, they could possible make the argument that it's inappropriate behavior for someone with your job, and they'll certainly use it to attack your character.
If you're a high school or elementary teacher, I'd contact your union rep about it. I imagine professors are relatively immune to this sort of thing, especially once they're tenured.
As for the boyfriend thing; I wouldn't have a problem with it, but I seem to be a minority in that regard amongst my friends.
Id say dont stop doing it for the bf, thats just lame, stopping for work is a whole nother story, thats really up to you and how safe you think you can keep yourself, i mean no matter what if they found out old sets or new id say you were screwed
Did your boyfriend meet you through the site, or did he know you posed when he met you? And when did he start having issues with it? Those are important questions to gauge his intentions. Personally I would not have a problem with it.
The job aspect is a different story. If your students or a parent ever found out it would most likely end your career.
Tricky territory. If it really will jeopardize your teaching career, that's one thing.
As for the boyfriend, it's pretty instinctual to be a bit jealous of his woman being seen in a sexual manner by other men, it gets all madonna/whore from there. Basically, if that's where this is all coming from, a compromise must be found on both your parts.
If I was your dude, it might take some getting used to, but I would try to accept the fact that you get naked on the internet. I'm not gonna talk shit and say I wouldn't mind, because I probably would mind random dudes I don't know jerking it to my woman's pics and all that. But then again, I am hispanic, So I got all that macho bullshit in me.
Listen, I'm sure your BF has his reasons, and even though you might not agree with them he still has them. You may view what you do for SG as a release, of a way to empower yourself, or maybe you simply get off on the attention. Whatever reasons, there your reasons, just as he has his reasons why he might have a problem with what you do here. I'm sure he'll come under fire here and people will say he sucks or "fuck him" it's your choice. The fact is that asking people around here what they think about a BF that's opposed to you posing and being an SG is like going to a Democratic convention and asking if you should vote Republican, it's just gonna stir the masses, but you might not get the answer you're searching for.
Fact is, you need to do what's best for you. Now, being young and naked in a site that can appreciate it and praise you for it might seem exiting and fun, but in the long run, is it what's best for YOU? before criticizing his reasons, you need to step back and see through unclouded eyes if he might have a legitimate point. If he's your BF, and you like him, hell, if you think that you might love him and have a future together with him, and if you really love teaching, and educating and molding young minds and you truly believe that that's your calling in life, is SG and posing nude for as you say "a bunch of strangers" really worth putting all of the above mentioned in jeopardy?
I for one think you're a stunning SG, and one of my favorites. Your sets are creative, sensual, sexy, and just naughty enough to let people know you're not just any other SG. But I also believe that this isn't a career, it's just a phase, a place in life where some of these girls leave their mark and consider themselves lucky that they were found beautiful and interesting enough to be an SG and be part of this community, lifestyle and escape from the daily bullshit grind. It's you're little taste of stardom, and you all deserve it. But all this also comes with consequences. Sure the members here get and appreciate what you're doing, but let's face it, this IS the internet and nothing that's put here ever stays here, ESPECIALLY SG sets. And beyond the walls of SG the rest of the world might not share it's understanding or acceptance of what SG's do here, whether it's tasteful or not. So yeah, of course there's a risk this could come back to haunt you, you are a teacher after all.
But what you need to do is to take all the facts, the pro's and con's, what truly matters to you in life, and make an informed decision, one that's gonna be what's best for you. Sure everyone's gonna have an opinion, but it's your life, and it's your choice.
Whatever you decide... Good luck, and we'll be here to support you in it!!
It's about how best you can mitigate any risk posed to you. Of course your boyfriend's opinion is just that, and based on your relationship and how you see that progessing will determine how much his opinion factors into your decision. It's your life, and if you were doing this before him then I don't think it's up to him whether or not you give it up
It's your life so live it. After all, any fall out you will have to deal with it, if you are not concerned then why change
It's a tough conundrum. Professionally speaking, there is very little tolerance for this for "certain people", such as teachers, public officials, Miss USA, or child stars! And of course you can understand why. People, or parents, would wonder how fine the line is between what you've done and those teachers or preachers who've outright abused children. It's scary. But no one you teach should be able to see this private, well...privately adult part of your life anyway. That is, not unless their parents are on the site and recognize you! What a web!
And on a personal level, if I were you're boyfriend or significant other...I'd admit I'd feel some jealousy over it, even though a guy thinks it would be such a gas to be with a porn star, playboy centerfold or the hottest actress in Hollywood! A man is more sensitive, in a good way, than society gives him credit for, after all. But if you were my girlfriend I'd be proud of your confidence in putting yourself out there. It satisfies something in you, it doesn't hurt anyone wishing to experience you, most definitely...and your partner should accept that those images are pale in comparison to being with you. He is therefore the special one in your heart.
Bottom line is that I wish this were a society much less sexually uptight as a culture, like many societies abroad. Places where the people casually accept a woman's toplessness rather than go ape-shit over it. But it seems those damned puritans and witch hunters that seeded the roots of this young country still have an influence on how we think to this day. Ironically, it's the uptight society (meaning the USA) that has the most occurrence of sexually offensive crimes compared to those more tolerant societies.
I suppose the basic question is, how do we teach our children to respect themselves and their sexuality, something which you cannot avoid being an important part of their lives, by ignoring it or separating it from their identity as a person? I believe we should guide our children to respect who they are, make their own choices, and make those choices with all the information available to give them a healthy perspective. In which case I would predict lower teen pregnancies, a possible return to courtship values, less promiscuity, more self-esteem among our youth and even less effectiveness of peer-pressure bullcrap!
So my advice (and I certainly don't intend to piss off your boyfriend) is that you do what gives you a sense of meaning. I know that sounds cryptic...but if teaching fills your soul, maybe that comes first, considering this is not the ideal land we dream of. If modeling makes you feel complete, then don't give it up. If your boyfriend thinks he has some right to stop you from what you truly want to do, he's no partner. As an extreme case in point: were you a porn star and I, as a boyfriend, wasn't cool with that...and yet it was something you enjoyed for however long it could last, well I shouldn't be your boyfriend then. Right?
boyfriend....thats a decision between you and him.....you have to go with whats best for you..
job....well .....teaching.....depends on what grade....and your area
my boyfriend does not want me to apply to SG for that reason - that it could eventually jeopardize my reputation/future jobs.
these are things that you as a girl have to decide. is this what you want? is this what makes you who you are? do you care what other people think? are you willing to possibly be told that you can't have a job because of your being naked on the internet?
there are so many questions that must be answered when being on this site [ whether you're an actual model or a member ]. not everyone in your life is going to support everything you do in life. do what YOU want. you can listen to others and what their opinions are. but it is YOUR decision in the long run. it is YOUR life, and YOUR reputation.
do what YOU want, my dear. we will al support you no matter what. xoxo.
As for work, isnt the one that will report you as guilty as you for watching SG, i would not worry about that. If someone points the finger then that someone as to be looking at SG.
THat would be a really good thing....
