K so I'd kinda like to get a verdict on this from others to see if I'm overreacting....
Lets start at the beginning of the 4 incidents that all add up to me being about to wave bye bye to the girl...
1. I've known her for a bit over 3 months now, we've been dating for 2 of those months, and I've not met her kids yet. Not really a big deal, i support being protective of the kids, etc. I don't really mind that. But on her Birthday she had the kids, so we couldn't do anything for her actual birthday... however, her ex(kid's father) tagged along to her birthday dinner. Later that night I talked to her and was being all cheery wishing her happy birthday, etc. inspite of the fact i was annoyed about him being at the dinner AND her having said it was nice to catch up with him a bit... and in return she was kinda short with me. This started my bullshit-o-meter counting...
2. She's been sick this last week or so, so I was being a "good boyfriend" and asking if she needed anything... juice, food, etc. so she didn't have to leave the house. She kept insisting no no no she was fine, didn't need anything. So instead of badgering(though i know she was trying to do the liquid diet thing since her stomach was messed up), I dropped it. Only to hear that her ex was stopping by to drop off a whole bunch of orange juice and soup and stuff to her the next day. Big strike two here in my book. Especially since his house and work aren't anywhere "on the way" from one or the other to drop stuff off.
3. This is kinda a compound thing from Friday... We had plans this weekend since she had the kids all last weekend and we couldn't do anything....She had parked her car at my place so she could see me in the morning since her co-worker lives almost in the same neighborhood as me and they were carpooling. Well, turns out her kid was sick at daycare and had to be picked up around 1 so she was freaking out about how she was gonna get back get to the car without me running into the kid, etc. So she decided the best course of action was to introduce me as her "friend". Whatever, no big deal... but I come to find out she was at lunch with her ex who works right across from the street from the show they were exhibiting at when she got the call about having to pick up the kid. This time I wasn't even informed of the lunch... impromptu or not, doesn't sit well with me especially with everything else. He was supposed to have her this weekend anyhow but couldn't get her early because he had to finish some stuff up at the office first.
4. Which brings us to 4, he had been supposed to have the kid Friday, but since the kid was sick, my girl wanted some extra time with the kid. That's completely cool with me and was actually a suggestion of mine. Well Saturday rolls around and theres confusion if he's gonna take her this weekend after all since its already Saturday. But the decision was supposed to be made at like 2 and he was gonna pick her up supposedly. Well, I was trying to ask her what was going on so I could make other plans with my friends if she wasn't available, and I didn't hear back from her for 2 hours. Then the response was "oh sorry he was here picking her up", "I'm not feeling good again today so maybe we can do something later, but probably tomorrow."
So I went out with my friends instead. Didn't hear another peep but I'm pretty sure I'm just going to blow her off for Sunday, I've been sitting around thinking about what my course of action should be and I just can't really formulate anything useful.
Granted they've been broken up for 3+ years now, but I still find this shit unacceptable. I'm debating even bringing it up and starting a fight over it or just flat out walking away. Anyone care to give me input?
*edit* strike five: she bugged me to come over today, and i was resistant but ultimately gave in because.... yes, as annoyed as I am I still wanted to see her. And they had been playing chess by text message or something all morning. Not a big deal I guess, but I just don't like having to deal with the messyness of exes especially this much. ... think I'm done hehe norritt and anni are right. I'm increasingly sure.
Lets start at the beginning of the 4 incidents that all add up to me being about to wave bye bye to the girl...
1. I've known her for a bit over 3 months now, we've been dating for 2 of those months, and I've not met her kids yet. Not really a big deal, i support being protective of the kids, etc. I don't really mind that. But on her Birthday she had the kids, so we couldn't do anything for her actual birthday... however, her ex(kid's father) tagged along to her birthday dinner. Later that night I talked to her and was being all cheery wishing her happy birthday, etc. inspite of the fact i was annoyed about him being at the dinner AND her having said it was nice to catch up with him a bit... and in return she was kinda short with me. This started my bullshit-o-meter counting...
2. She's been sick this last week or so, so I was being a "good boyfriend" and asking if she needed anything... juice, food, etc. so she didn't have to leave the house. She kept insisting no no no she was fine, didn't need anything. So instead of badgering(though i know she was trying to do the liquid diet thing since her stomach was messed up), I dropped it. Only to hear that her ex was stopping by to drop off a whole bunch of orange juice and soup and stuff to her the next day. Big strike two here in my book. Especially since his house and work aren't anywhere "on the way" from one or the other to drop stuff off.
3. This is kinda a compound thing from Friday... We had plans this weekend since she had the kids all last weekend and we couldn't do anything....She had parked her car at my place so she could see me in the morning since her co-worker lives almost in the same neighborhood as me and they were carpooling. Well, turns out her kid was sick at daycare and had to be picked up around 1 so she was freaking out about how she was gonna get back get to the car without me running into the kid, etc. So she decided the best course of action was to introduce me as her "friend". Whatever, no big deal... but I come to find out she was at lunch with her ex who works right across from the street from the show they were exhibiting at when she got the call about having to pick up the kid. This time I wasn't even informed of the lunch... impromptu or not, doesn't sit well with me especially with everything else. He was supposed to have her this weekend anyhow but couldn't get her early because he had to finish some stuff up at the office first.
4. Which brings us to 4, he had been supposed to have the kid Friday, but since the kid was sick, my girl wanted some extra time with the kid. That's completely cool with me and was actually a suggestion of mine. Well Saturday rolls around and theres confusion if he's gonna take her this weekend after all since its already Saturday. But the decision was supposed to be made at like 2 and he was gonna pick her up supposedly. Well, I was trying to ask her what was going on so I could make other plans with my friends if she wasn't available, and I didn't hear back from her for 2 hours. Then the response was "oh sorry he was here picking her up", "I'm not feeling good again today so maybe we can do something later, but probably tomorrow."
So I went out with my friends instead. Didn't hear another peep but I'm pretty sure I'm just going to blow her off for Sunday, I've been sitting around thinking about what my course of action should be and I just can't really formulate anything useful.
Granted they've been broken up for 3+ years now, but I still find this shit unacceptable. I'm debating even bringing it up and starting a fight over it or just flat out walking away. Anyone care to give me input?
*edit* strike five: she bugged me to come over today, and i was resistant but ultimately gave in because.... yes, as annoyed as I am I still wanted to see her. And they had been playing chess by text message or something all morning. Not a big deal I guess, but I just don't like having to deal with the messyness of exes especially this much. ... think I'm done hehe norritt and anni are right. I'm increasingly sure.
might be time to get outta there.
agrees