Find another girl she is using you for an emotinal secruity blanket if she wants to play game's ....game on dude.
Ive done this before when you find someone else fuck she will hate you but want you even more . have fun with it
the advice everyone is giving you is likely wrong.
she doesn't want to be asked out on a date.
she wants everything to flow awesomely... .just like it already is. going on a 'date' would just make it awkward as fuck.
instead, when you're hanging out playing a game on the floor, or watching a movie, and you're both joking around and being silly do the 'nudge'. like, lightly elbow her or whatever. totally playful, physical flirting. if she elbows you back, great.
basically, IF she likes you, which it sounds to me like she does, she wants the first kiss to be Natural. she doesn't want a date. she doesn't want an awkward situation in which you are 'supposed' to kiss.
so instead, make it playful. get into that flirty touchy/feely elbowing/wresting zone, and then, just give her a quick peck on the cheek (or if you're really brave, the lips). just a peck. give her 2 seconds to think. then go in for a real kiss.
if she kisses you back, you're in. if she recoils... she's never, ever going to go for you and you need to put her in the friend category too.
if she has any interest in you, i truly believe the above is the best advice ever.
p.s. for best results... right before the peck, look her in the eyes with a michevious grin. maybe even quickly bite your lower lip if you can pull that off without looking like too much of a dork.
then the peck.
during the 2 second (or so, but NOT too long at all) wait period, look her in the eyes.
you MUST be: calm. happy. confident. as cute/sexy as possible. keyword: playful. this is the first kiss. make it count.
then go in for the kiss.
like i said, you can pull this off watching a movie. or playing a game. or if you're doing something outside that''s particularly fun.
and if it doesn't work out because it ends up she's genuinely not into you (which i really don't think to be the case based on your info)... then still use this advice next time. if it's going well, you don't ever -need- to ask her on a date. just let it go well! and kiss her at an opportune moment!
yeah...I'd go with what the SGs said, and also Ferret.
I've had a long history of falling for girls and ending up friends with them and it sucks.
Except one time. That time I did the whole asking her out thing like I had with the rest, and no shit, she said she wanted to be friends. arse. Then a week or two later, whilst really drunk, I gave her a kiss, and bingo! All sorted.
A while later I asked her why she said no when I'd asked before, she said 'because we already were going out and doing stuff, asking just ruined it'. Basically by asking her out it just made the situation awkward, unromantic and it demonstrated that I had no confidence. You could be bradd pitt, but without confidence (or at least pretending you have confidence) you may as well be the elephant man.
So do what Ferret says, the only time I managed to get out of the friend-zone was like that.
From what it sounds like, you need to seek interest in someone else. Oddly enough that should be enough to bring her around. It will let her know you won't be her emotional handi-wipe without something in it for you.
