I was reading your story in the public thread and, while i've never dealt with exactly what you are dealing with, I've been held helpless by a loved one as well. I wish I had some advice, but the others in the public thread seem to be doing a very good job of helping you there. All I can do is offer strength and positivity to you both and pray that you find your way through it. My heart is definitely with you tonight.
Ey man hows it goin. Hope everything is going ok. If you want to talk about this (since i have major experience, my girlfriend went through the same thing.. only it didnt have a pretty outcome) feel free to IM me
Best wishes
rockon