bigman316

okay so here is the deal... i have been dating this girl for about a month or so. she is nice, she is super nice. she has alot of qualities some guys would die for in a girlfriend: she loves to cook, it makes her happy to pack me lunch for work, she can't understand why i spend money at the dry cleaners and not bring her my uniforms to wash and press, she likes movies, she likes restaurants, she doesn't mind the smell of cigars. i like her, i really do, i might even like her alot. but......... i just don't feel that there is that "spark" that some couples, especially new couples experience. i don't look at her and giggle, i don't spend my days counting hours until i see her again, i don't act like a junior high school kid sick with puppy love when i am around her. i honestly feel like i am just going thru the motions with this girl, playing the part of her boyfriend. i don't feel like a boyfriend, i don't even refer to her as my girlfriend, she is just the girl i am dating. i know i have issues, i have trust issues, i recognize the fact that i have been used many times over, i realize i have myself convinced that a rock has more self esteem than i do. plus a whole list of other stuff. my point is, i don't know what to do, do i keep on the path i am?? do i break up with her?? do i give it more time?? and if i give it more time, how much time?? i don't know... i am slightly confused. okay, more than slightly confused. i am open to advice. actually i really want some advice. peace, everyone. d.