Hey love! I'm here for you please don't ever forget that!!!!! Sandra says she is too, we both read your blog and we are sorry our brother is a dick!
Please don't think I'm mad at you! I love you!
I know this situation is terrible for you, but it is better to find out how he feels now before the relationship gets anymore serious. I wish you the best of luck and hope that the two of you can find an amicable resolution to your problem.
Longer answer in your inbox, but summed up, just give him his space, let him come to his own conclusions. Its not easy, I know, but this maybe the kind of test your relationship needs. All of us need to be subject to that test at one point or another.
Hope I don't sound callous or anything here, but you are still so young and need to get out and experience life, and other people before settling down. I'm assuming he is a similar age, and guys being guys, committment issues are, well an issue!
I reckon you should dump him, get out and enjoy life, gather some more life experience, and that special person will come along!!
There's a line in a song by a little Aussieband called the Whitlams that goes something like this!
"You're one in a million, which means that there are 5 more just here in New South Wales!!!!" (our state)
There are plenty of fish in the ocean, if he's not sure, then he's not the one! or the 5! You desrve someone who will love you, care for you and want to spend the rest of their life with you, and you do not have to spend time apart to think about it and consider what you want!! That's a crock! You just KNOW!!!
Sorry, babe!! Just dump him and find that special man that wants to be yours!!!
I'm so sad to read this and I know it feels horrible right now. It takes some time to process shocking and disappointing events, but however it turns out, you will feel better in a while. It's not your fault that you found someone who can behave in such a foolish and insensitive manner, because we can't read minds or predict anyone's future choices with any certainty. I'm sure that he has qualities that make him lovable, but that doesn't make him necessarily the right life partner for you. I'm quite sure that this is about his fears and insecurities and not any failing of yours, but the loss of the future you thought you had is still going to hurt for a time. It's rare not to go through something like this, so you are far from alone.
Your situation sounds really tough, but one way or another, with time I suspect you'll get through it OK. This was a month ago, I see. I hope things have changed for the better since then. Whatever happens, good luck to you.
Please don't think I'm mad at you! I love you!