You neither have control, nor do not have control. We think that control is changing things as they happen, but that's not so. We don't have that sort of control. But we do have some degree of influence over how we respond to what happens. It is there that the struggle between suffering and joy occurs.
The only control we have is how we respond to a situation. Happiness is a choice. There can be joy in the darkest of times. The point is not to fear the inevitable dark which is actually light.
