First, if you didn't already know, I bolted from my ex-wife into the bed of another. I have guilt about it, but I've found my match. Sometimes a shocking, drastic change is a good thing. It even seems to be working out well for you.
Tension can be a huge source of depression. I know I felt like a huge weight had been lifted when I left home, because it was so toxic for both my ex and I.
I did the same sort of bolt.
Now I'm very very very happy
I mean, sure there's stress and there will be rough times, but it's totally worth it to get away from something that's dragging you down.
I have no doubt that you loved her. But her unhappiness probably weighed you down a lot too.
Tension can be a huge source of depression. I know I felt like a huge weight had been lifted when I left home, because it was so toxic for both my ex and I.