I remember when you were soooooo into the blogger. Kinda sad, really.
Know what you mean about the effort thing. Sometimes people will tell me, "I think that's one of the best things you've ever written," and invariably it's something I did in like an hour. And I'll work on something for weeks and nobody says a word. Also, props on the Dahmer comparison.
Sorry to hear about the mysterious 'blogger' gal; I went through a similiar stage myself (as the gal..err...that doesn't sound right) where I certainly did not want to be turned down for self esteem purposes and all. Not that all of this was in the least it fair to the poor girl I was crushing on at the time. I would suggest being as blunt as possible, although it's going to bruise her ego pretty bad *shrugs*.
As for the entire work ethnic thing, I grew up in the Midwest and was recently told by one of my best friends that I have apparently absorbed and intigrated the entire "wisconsin folk mythos" as she said it. So perhaps I can speak at great length here about the topic *Alright class, I'm going to lecture for a few minutes, so everyone get your papers out and start taking notes. Hey! You sit back down right now! The next person that thows something at me is out of this room, you hear me!?*
I really do believe that a strong work ethic IS a good quality to have; although it does presuppose that the person is working towards moral means. I mean; Stalin had a huge work ethic going for him, much to the shagrin of his victums. It usually indicates that the person is willing to focus themselves on a single thing, are commited, and are not lazy (all things which, I think, we can agree are lesser traits). ANd as for quality of what you're working on; well sometime the work itself is the enjoyable part (In fact, thats the part that goes with this. the entire midwestern "work for work's sake). Last month I spent two full days working on wood carving a small axe figure; did it until my hangs got all callused and stuff. Was the end result that good? Naw. But did I have a lot of fun doing it? Yup
Ok, sorry about that; I just got done watching "Prarie Home Companion" last night and am all up about the Midwest and stuff. Forgive me
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Who knew that the ladies wouldn't like obsessive guys.