Ah life and stress. We meet once again.
My fiance tells me that my personality changes when I'm around my family, which
I think is somewhat normal for all people. Your family and you have a completely different
relationship that anyone else in your life. Its like a battlefield and a cozy blanket all in one.
Being the almost psych major that I am, I can't help trying to figure out why they do the things they do.
So I been rummaging through the DSM 5 manual for fun and discover they are codependent.
Which explains a lot, such as why they they hated my ex-bf until the day I broke up with him because then
he was like their pet project, someone new to take care of. And why they disliked my fiance for so long
because omg there's not a single mental issue or area in which they are necessary in his life for him to survive. And it also explains why they have an inevitable ability to not connect or reach out to their own children.
But it still leaves me with this empty feeling... As much as I love them, I still feel like they need help. And I'm finally realizing (yes, I know its common sense) that I can't fix them or help them understand their own problems. They aren't able to see things the way I do (another part of codependency), but now what do I do. I came home to try and help our relationship, to attempt to fix those issues my parents and I had so my four year old sister wouldn't have to deal with all the things I have.
Now I just feel kinda lost, I'm not giving up, but I'm also not gonna fight this way anymore.
But thanks for reading, and here are some pics.
My fiance tells me that my personality changes when I'm around my family, which
I think is somewhat normal for all people. Your family and you have a completely different
relationship that anyone else in your life. Its like a battlefield and a cozy blanket all in one.
Being the almost psych major that I am, I can't help trying to figure out why they do the things they do.
So I been rummaging through the DSM 5 manual for fun and discover they are codependent.
Which explains a lot, such as why they they hated my ex-bf until the day I broke up with him because then
he was like their pet project, someone new to take care of. And why they disliked my fiance for so long
because omg there's not a single mental issue or area in which they are necessary in his life for him to survive. And it also explains why they have an inevitable ability to not connect or reach out to their own children.
But it still leaves me with this empty feeling... As much as I love them, I still feel like they need help. And I'm finally realizing (yes, I know its common sense) that I can't fix them or help them understand their own problems. They aren't able to see things the way I do (another part of codependency), but now what do I do. I came home to try and help our relationship, to attempt to fix those issues my parents and I had so my four year old sister wouldn't have to deal with all the things I have.
Now I just feel kinda lost, I'm not giving up, but I'm also not gonna fight this way anymore.
But thanks for reading, and here are some pics.
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i know what you mean with the family stuff as well. there are soooooo many things i would just love to point out to my folks as well, but there's no point... it would just send into fits of rage and denial and likely get me written out of the will.
i guess on the brightside, at least WE are wise enough to see things the way they are, and act accordingly