So....a couple of thoughts today...
A few weeks ago (yes, weeks ago...and I am still not sure what to do!) I was cruising through people on Tinder (Yes....I openly admit I am on Tinder) and as I am going through I suddenly stop on a rather familiar face! Now see, this has happened a couple of times before, no big deal...."oh hey, there's that guy that was on OK Cupid" or "oh haha that's totally the waiter I saw at the bar"....this time it was different. This time, it happened to be a family members significant other. Who is STILL currently her significant other, and whom also shares living spaces with...and who is still very much in this relationship with her. Right....okay...don't panic!! His profile was blank, and he had three pictures up. One of him, him and *their* dog, and then just one of the pooch, and he had been online like 5 minutes ago according to the app. I swiped right to see if he had actually matched with me, which would have been really strange on his part considering he knows who I am, and that's also assuming that he had happened across my Tinder page as well.
We didn't match. (*shocker*)
So but now.....what do I do? Do I do nothing? Do I tell my family member? Do I confront the guy?
I discussed the situation with my sister and her husband and they volunteered a bit of information that might have explained him having a Tinder, but also seemed slightly shady that he didn't include a picture of her if the info they gave me was true! They seemed rather unsure of what I should do.
At this point, I am just like FUCK IT. I AM TEXTING HER. So I text her just a generic "hey, what's up, how are you" and she responds and then I froze up....shit, like...what if she's mad at ME for this somehow? Will she not view me as just looking out for her? Maybe she knows and let's him wander, maybe they are both into it. I don't know! ugh. I called my oldest sister who lives out of state and told her about it. She thinks I should just let it go. She discussed with her S/O and he agreed with that. A HUGE part of me completely agrees and thinks that I should just not get involved, and it's their(his?) business. Also, a part of me will feel really really fucking terrible, if they break up down the line and it's because she found out he was cheating on her VIA Tinder or some shit. Like, occasionally weighing the shit down on my conscience.
Any and ALL thoughts on this are SO MUCH appreciated!!
(Also, I just realized that I technically have like 4-5 peoples relationships in my hands...what from guys contacting me that are in committed relationships, engaged, or even married that want to do the sexy time with me...and they KNOW I can easily contact their S/O's...some of them I am friends with BOTH of them on facebook ffs. Like, hi...really? Not that I want to ruin someones relationship or anything, and not like I acted upon any of the advances from these said dudes, but still. Their other halves (so to speak) are not in the know, and are not OK with them sleeping with or playing with others) (side note: if the S/O WAS in fact okay with and knew about them playing and having sex with other people then I am totally okay with that, but I also require a quick face to face or phone type of convo with the S/O to make sure it's all good!)
ok....guess that's all for now.
Much love <3
(also, don't forget to let me know what you would do in my situation here! thanks again for reading!)