I think that an important part of the human experience is to humble yourself as years go along.
An important example for myself is to admit that I possess flaws that would be considered unfavorable. For example, I used to get overly upset over rejection, and even when a woman that I honestly had NOTHING in common with would give me the cold shoulder after what I thought was a good date, I would say to myself or even to her, "Well, fine, pass up a generous and well-meaning man with more than one dimension and go for the beefcake cowboy you shallow little girl!" But I have realized that I am, in fact, shallow myself. And while it took a long time of me making the same mistake, I finally learned to admit to myself that I am indeed despicably shallow.
Yes, I do value intelligence and common interests in a potential mate, but physical attraction is always a factor. In fact, if some women who had model-like bodies, but hateful personalities, were to somehow magically find themselves desiring me, I most likely would have dated them, regardless of their venomous dispositions. And, when I find women who possess both intelligence and physical beauty, I have honestly realized the male swine in me and understand that their physical appearance does play majorly into my attraction.
The humor is that I am nowhere near the physical perfect standard for the ideal sexually attractive male! So, yes, I have become humbled and have accepted that when my efforts are met with rejection or being seen as no more than a friend, that I am to blame solely on my own. I have no right to complain about it and if I wish to make this shallowness my path, I have no option other than to stop being stubborn, give up my love of greasy food and sleep, and make regular painful exercise a priority. But, in all honesty, while I wish to maintain a healthier lifestyle and avoid morbid obesity, I will likely never be a candidate to play a sparkly vampire.
So, I am humble and realize that there is much I do deserve. Life shall be as it is and I shall only gain what I work hard to earn. I deserve nothing more. I acknowledge my flaws and I must accommodate my life to live with them or go through the necessary processes to change them. Until then, I will not longer complain. If I do, please smack me.
An important example for myself is to admit that I possess flaws that would be considered unfavorable. For example, I used to get overly upset over rejection, and even when a woman that I honestly had NOTHING in common with would give me the cold shoulder after what I thought was a good date, I would say to myself or even to her, "Well, fine, pass up a generous and well-meaning man with more than one dimension and go for the beefcake cowboy you shallow little girl!" But I have realized that I am, in fact, shallow myself. And while it took a long time of me making the same mistake, I finally learned to admit to myself that I am indeed despicably shallow.
Yes, I do value intelligence and common interests in a potential mate, but physical attraction is always a factor. In fact, if some women who had model-like bodies, but hateful personalities, were to somehow magically find themselves desiring me, I most likely would have dated them, regardless of their venomous dispositions. And, when I find women who possess both intelligence and physical beauty, I have honestly realized the male swine in me and understand that their physical appearance does play majorly into my attraction.
The humor is that I am nowhere near the physical perfect standard for the ideal sexually attractive male! So, yes, I have become humbled and have accepted that when my efforts are met with rejection or being seen as no more than a friend, that I am to blame solely on my own. I have no right to complain about it and if I wish to make this shallowness my path, I have no option other than to stop being stubborn, give up my love of greasy food and sleep, and make regular painful exercise a priority. But, in all honesty, while I wish to maintain a healthier lifestyle and avoid morbid obesity, I will likely never be a candidate to play a sparkly vampire.
So, I am humble and realize that there is much I do deserve. Life shall be as it is and I shall only gain what I work hard to earn. I deserve nothing more. I acknowledge my flaws and I must accommodate my life to live with them or go through the necessary processes to change them. Until then, I will not longer complain. If I do, please smack me.