I am so so so unbelievably sick of my sister and her selfish *dont care about shit except for myself - every one must do things for me but god forbbid they expect me to do something* attidude! Im about ready to burst!
I wont go into all the details leading up to my near melt down with her as it has been on going for a couple years now and although I'm boring you with this most likely already I dont need to over do it.
We will start maybe with just the begining of this month. In no partiular order.
I watch her boy 10 to 12 hours a day monday through friday as sort of a day care service. Along with my little one I have offered to start homeschool preschool as she says "I can't afford to put him into preschool". Now out of my OWN pocket I have gone ahead and paid for some work books some activitie books and just some general homeschool material. Not a thank you to be herd by the way. I also watch him on weeks when she is on call (which is about twice a month) this means I may be watching him from 7 am till 9 or 10 some nights as so happend a couple weeks ago. Now see as she is treating me as a day care service and in the long run that is basically what I am to her I would assume to get paid extra for the extra hours. It was like pulling nails trying to convince her of this.
Lets break this down shall we. My sister gets paid 19.50 an hour, on days she works on call or any over time she gets near 30 bucks an hour. She pays me (as or instead of a day care provider) only 100 dollars a week equaling 200 a pay period and 400 a month. Work that out and I get paid around 2.50 an hour (assumeing that I only watch him the agreed amount at 10 hours a day, which is like finding 10 5 leaf clovers in the same clover field... never happens). So all in all her income at take home is anywhere from 2000 to 2200 a month and mine at 400. Include the checks I get from the government and my total income is at a massive $750/month!!!!
Also we live together so I know her rent is at 300 as is mine (we both pay the same amount). I did her budget for her not 2 weeks ago to figure out her expenses after rent and car payments and such and she has over 800 average a month left over... and that is a low average (I knocked close to 200 or so to be safe and account for any taxes or hided fees that might arise). THATS STILL MORE THEN I MAKE A MONTH AND THATS HER LEFT OVER GOD DAMN MONEY!
Now if you are wondering why I am pointing this out here is why. She tells me more often then not that she is unable to afford to pay me my 200 a paycheck and often times I only get 100. How can she not afford this! Shes broke???????? Are you kidding me? Live with my buget and pay for only a month and THEN and only then can you talk to me about being broke. Cant afford 400 a month my fucking ass, if you had him in daycare you would not be aloud to just say "oh Im so so sorry this month I only have 800 left if I pay you so I just cant afford it Im going to have to only give you half of your pay" This is life little lady the world dont make its rules based on if its good for you. You get a service you pay for the price you agreed to. I dont care if she is only going to have 100 dollars left after paying me, your an adult your payments are a prioritie not your spending money. Try telling your car company that you can only pay them half of what you owe them and they are going to take your car away.
Now dont get me wrong I would never leave Hayden stranded just because my sister can not pay me. But if she can not pay me the money I need to get by on then I need her to put him in a daycare so that I can work and get the money I need. Put him in daycare and then see how you fare its going to be an eye opener sweetie, you are god damn lucky I am your sister!
Ok next (I told you this was a long one) please for god sake if you are not going to take care of or watch your child in the morning when he wakes up come and get me. Passing out on the couch to let him run around unattended does not count. I worrie he might get out of the house again.... yea you remember that time you just kept sleeping and he got out and walked down the street and a naibour from a couple doors down brought him back thank fucking god. Or how about the time he got into the ajax and had it sprayed all in the dogs face and all over himself. That stuff could fucking kill a child and all you do is wake up from you deep slumber and wine and complain and get mad and yell at him because now you have to clean it up. FUCK!
AND QUIT ASKING ME IF YOU CAN BORROW MONEY. No you may not fucking borrow money, do I have to go over with you how much more a month you get then I do how the fuck does there ever come a time when you have no money left and yet I do?? BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO MANAGE YOUR MONEY. Stop complaining that your broke and cant afford to live off of 2200 a month liz if I can live of of 750 you sure a shit can live off what your lucky ass gets.
Your damn son love you liz pay attention to him he is not just something cute to tag along with you to show off. Oh sure when your friends have birthday partys or family outting you will take him. For him to have fun ooooh no so that you may show of your oh so wonderful mothering skills. If he wants to go out side to play you wont let him unless it suits you to go out side if he wants to watch a movie with you you wont watch it unless its a movie you want to watch. Whn you come home from work the reason why he is crawling all over you is because he loves you and hasnt seen you all day dont look at me and say "im so tired im going to nap" or push him away and tell him to leave you alone because you cant be bothered to play with your child. You may be tired but you are a mother so come on now and grow up.
Help fucking clean would you PLEASE. fucking hell im sick of this mess, I am always cleaning up after you. Your excuse? "I work" or "Im tired" or "I have plans today". And so im here watching your child AND cleaning your messes while you work to come home and just go right down stair to nap leaving me to still continue doing these things even though you are now home. Then you have the nerve to get pissy about mess or complain to me about the goddamn laundry cause you cant find any of your clothes. Telling me "you are going to have to go through the clothes cause I cant find anything for me or Hayden to ware" EXCUSE ME! Jesus i should be charging extra from being your fucking housekeeper too.
You are older then me start acting like it for fucksakes, Im not your god damn mother!!
Ok I think I will leave it at that, im not sure my rambling is making any sense any more and im just working myself up but *phew* its good to get that out even if its not to her face