Not you ladies, you can go back to watching Netflix and drinking tea made from certain, specific men's tears.
It's the certain, specific men that I want to talk to right now.
#notallmen has got to be the most idiotic and offensive hashtag to me as a male that I think I've ever seen. Seriously, it's right up there with #repealthe19th and #boycottnike in my eyes. I know better, okay? I don't need to throw that in women's faces every time one of them speaks out against how badly they're treated by you. I don't feel the need to advertise to the world that I was raised right. I don't need to get on my soapbox and defend myself from accusations that were made against you. In short, I don't associate with you and I sure as FUCK am not going to be dragged through the mud by you.
Men do fucked up things to women. It's a fact of life that you need to accept whether you've done any of those things or not. If you haven't then good, keep it that way. But don't jump up on your soapbox and scream about it. You have no reason to. You didn't fucking do anything. And don't give me this bullshit line about how "you're just looking out for me." You aren't looking out for anyone but yourself at best and at worst you're defending your dudebro friends who are guilty of sexual assault under this unspoken law of "bros before hoes." Just because he's your friend doesn't mean he can't rape someone.
Oh and if you're going to go off about how women can sexually assault men too, save it. I already know. I was raped by a girlfriend once. She climbed on top of me and I told her no and she just stayed on top and said: "Wait then." and started stroking me. I pushed her off and she shoved me down on my back and shouted: "Just wait!" She shifted her body weight around so I couldn't struggle anymore and then ground her crotch against mine until she got off. It was scary, it was painful and it was humiliating and the worst part was even though I was physically strong enough to fight her off I was afraid to because I thought the cops would just arrest me. You see, men like you always tell guys like me shit like: "Of course you want it, why wouldn't you? You're a man you?" And if we continue to press our case about why we wouldn't want sex then its: "What are you a fag? A homo?" Some of you even go so far as to threaten to kick our asses. So with that in mind I wanted to make sure the cops never got involved because I felt pretty certain they would have that same attitude. So I just laid there and waited for her to finish. There was nothing else I felt safe doing.
Not only did I never say anything about it after the fact (and here's the worst part) I kept dating her even after that happened. Why? Because I was afraid of her. I was afraid of what she would do to me. I already knew what she was capable of and also, somewhere in the back of mind I just kept trying to convince myself that it was a one time thing. That maybe if I just did what she wanted she wouldn't do that anymore. Thankfully, we broke up a short time later for good and I never had to relive that experience but I know damn well I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'll carry that experience with me the rest of my life.
So that's why I don't flash the not all men hashtag because it's insulting to me. I know what rape is and I know that it happens and worse yet I know there is probably someone reading this who has done it to a woman and gotten away with it. If that's you well #timesup mother fucker because I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure you go down.