Im in a bit of dilemma really. I need to decide where I want to live soon. My options are here in Australia, United Arab Emirates or Canada. The deal is I want to give my friend Leah and I a chance and see what happens. She currently lives in Abu Dhabi and in 2 weeks she finds out if she gets a job in Ottawa (canada) that will help her get the job she wants which is human security and peace building. If she doesnt get the job she will stay in Abu Dhabi for another year teaching English. If i go there then I will be working in a tax free country and we cant live together because its actually illegal...weird huh. Ive never been to the middle east and dont know how I would cope but the cash would be great and could set me up in the future.
If she gets the job in ottawa I cant work there because ive already worked there in the past and you can only ever get the visa once. The other option would be to marry my friend Leah. This im not happy about because marriage is very important to me and I dont want to get married for the visa. Having said that I loved living in canada and wouldnt mind doing it again. The only way i would get married would be at a quiet little office somewhere and i wouldnt want my family to know about it and then when I have saved up some cash then would have a proper wedding. That depends if i do want to marry her.
The 3rd option would be that she comes here and gets another shit kicker job and risks ruining the chance of her getting work with the UN eventually and thus her possibly resenting me for the rest of her life. At the moment im pretty torn. I love Oz but I dont have much keeping me here. Family obviously but I have few true friends and Im not overly happy. The other thing stressing me is the whole marriage thing. Yes im 31 and in great shape and doing my own thing, but if this opportunity goes by the way side, will I forever wish I had taken it?
Deep down I think id prefer the UAE because its closer to oz and the moneys good and ive never been and it will be very different but one hell of an experience. Ultimately Ive got to wait and see what happens on Leahs end in regards to jobs. Its a lot of heavy shit to think about.......
If she gets the job in ottawa I cant work there because ive already worked there in the past and you can only ever get the visa once. The other option would be to marry my friend Leah. This im not happy about because marriage is very important to me and I dont want to get married for the visa. Having said that I loved living in canada and wouldnt mind doing it again. The only way i would get married would be at a quiet little office somewhere and i wouldnt want my family to know about it and then when I have saved up some cash then would have a proper wedding. That depends if i do want to marry her.
The 3rd option would be that she comes here and gets another shit kicker job and risks ruining the chance of her getting work with the UN eventually and thus her possibly resenting me for the rest of her life. At the moment im pretty torn. I love Oz but I dont have much keeping me here. Family obviously but I have few true friends and Im not overly happy. The other thing stressing me is the whole marriage thing. Yes im 31 and in great shape and doing my own thing, but if this opportunity goes by the way side, will I forever wish I had taken it?
Deep down I think id prefer the UAE because its closer to oz and the moneys good and ive never been and it will be very different but one hell of an experience. Ultimately Ive got to wait and see what happens on Leahs end in regards to jobs. Its a lot of heavy shit to think about.......
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As for the Canadian marriage thing....to me getting hitched at the registry office is a formality that you for governmental reasons. Like immigration, or how it affects health funds or something. It's not real marriage tiil you decide it's a real marriage and mark it in whatever way you like. So if doing the canadian visa thing works out for you, why not go for it? I'd rather live there in a beautiful country than move to an air-conditioned mall like the UAE
It is a wonder we have a species at all....
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